Tuesday, June 14, 2005

Jealousy

What is jealousy? It is a product of Envy.
The desire to be better than the others creates envious feeling. Why are people so prone to competitions? Even if one is not in the competition setting, one puts themselves into that setting to compete with everyone around you on just about anything. Who is skinnier, who looks better, who has better car, who has more savings, who owns more properties, who has a better job, who has a better significant other, who were married first, who is more distinguished, who is more respected,... This list can go on and on with no ending to it.

I guess it is human nature to get jealous at someone else, however, why do friends get jealous to each other? Aren't friends supposed to be supportive to each other? Why can people be happy for the others if they are doing well?

How about adding this phrase before all the why questions - What can I learn from the person who is doing better?! Then one will be busy enough to do something about all the problems rather than spending time feeling jealous.

With more people being born into the society, there are naturally more people competing for a job. One is lucky to be doing what one loves and get paid for it. So just keep working and feel lucky and happy about it! Why not use this environment as a way to push ourselves to get better? As one gets better, one feels better, than there will be no envy of the others. How great is that!

Monday, June 13, 2005

Why?!

Inconsideration seems to be the common human trait in the society. People used to call in to cancel an appointment/engagement ahead of a time. Now, people not only cancel last minute, sometimes they just don't show up! They don't even bother to come up with an excuse anymore. Why?!

People are so used to have everything revolve around them. They assume they can change scheduling without consulting others. For example, some people will forget to show up to an appointment, and if you call to ask what is going on, what you might get is, "oh I am so sorry, I am at a doctor appointment, can we reschedule it to 5 pm instead?" Why?! Are you going to compensate the time I wasted on waiting for you? I could have used the time to do other constructive things. Now you want me to reschedule so you can do the same thing all over to me again? Why?! You are sorry? No, you are not. If you are sorry, then you would not do this. Why in the first place you could schedule 2 things at the same time? If you happened to make a mistake of writing it down at the wrong place in your appointment book, that is one thing, if that is not the case, then you have lots of explaining to do.

People's driving also is a major issue in our society. Many tend to drive like they own the road. Changing lanes without checking, and honking the other cars even though they are the one creating the problems. People are not, and don't want to be aware of their surrounding, yet, they want the others to notice them where ever and when ever they are. Why the double standards?! Inconsiderate! Also, why do people tailgate?! Especially at night? How is the person who is practically blinded by your lights supposed to drive faster? If you want to drive 40 mph above the speed limit, then don't expect others to do the same. If you don't treasure your life, please don't take the others' lives with you. Leave us alone!


Why do people expect others to do as little as they do?! For example, in a corporation, people are summoned to a meeting where there are agendas to discuss and resolve. Some will come prepared with researches done themselves without being ask to do so, and some will come totally with no preparation, yet the ones that did not put in any time would accuse the ones that had spend time doing their homework of wanting to take control?! Hello, what do you think the meeting is for? For people to get together and chit chat? Well... If you want to be in charge of anything, you have to know first what you want to be in charge of! If you want to be a mediocrity, then don't expect others to be like you also. At least don't slow down the whole process. You can not get the same treatment or respect if you don't put in the work. You have to earn the respect!

Why are kids so hard to teach? They are manipulative, spoiled, and inconsiderate. Here are some questions asked by a 9 years old kid to his parents and their answers:

Q: Why do I have to do so much homework?
A:Because you do, and the amount of homework you have is not much, it is practically nothing!

Q:Why can't I play the video game?
A:Because you cannot, and I said so.

Q:Why is a passing grade not good enough for you?
A:Because you did not work on it at all, plus a D is "NOT" a good grade!

Q:There are people in my class getting F's, I did better than them, why are you so hard on me?
A:Why are you comparing yourself to people who are doing worse than you only? How about the rest of 99.5% who are getting better grades than you? Why don't you compare yourself to them?

Q:I don't have a brain, why did you keep pushing me to figure this out?
A:You don't have a brain?! Of course you do, you just don't use it. If you want all the answers from others without using your brain, wait until it starts shrinking, then, you really will end up having no brain!

Q:You don't love me, you don't let me do anything I want! Why?
A:If we don't love you, then you would be starving by now with no food and no place to sleep. If we don't love you, you will not be wearing all these new clothes. If we don't love you, we would not be talking right now. If we don't love you, I will be charging you for all the time and emotion we dedicate to raising you. So, anymore questions?!

I am only a kid, don't expect me to do more than a kid can do!
Yes, you are a kid, so act like one, listen to your parents!

Saturday, June 11, 2005

Totoro

A confused look for luck of getting some food from us!

Totoro. 6/4/2005 Posted by Hello

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Friday, June 10, 2005

???A teacher's torment??? An Article by Tim Madigan

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A teacher's torment
By Tim Madigan
Star-Telegram Staff Writer
Posted on Mon, Jun. 06, 2005

http://www.dfw.com/mld/dfw/11830676.htm

FORT WORTH - For most of the past three weeks, Veda Kaplinsky has sat in the same seat on the right side of Bass Hall, listening as one of her students, audience favorite Joyce Yang, played her way to a silver medal at the 12th Van Cliburn International Piano Competition.

Under other circumstances, Yang's medal, awarded Sunday night, would have been a happy career milestone for Kaplinsky, the 58-year-old chairwoman of the piano department at The Juilliard School. Instead, the teacher says the past few months have been among the most trying of her life.

Kaplinsky has been the target of an anonymous, orchestrated smear campaign, consisting of harassing email messages, an anonymous letter, Internet postings, ominous late-night phone calls and a threatening statement overheard last week at Bass Hall.

The harassment has become increasingly menacing since Kaplinsky arrived in Texas, prompting her to contact Fort Worth police twice in the past week.

Investigators aren't certain who is behind the threats, although Kaplinsky blames disgruntled pianists. But the situation illustrates just how high the stakes are at the world's most prestigious piano competition, which can launch a pianist to a career of fame and fortune. (A Cliburn medalist gets $20,000 and three years of concert management.)

The personal attacks began early this year, when a five-person screening jury that included Kaplinsky listened to 147 pianists in Cliburn auditions around the world. Seven of Kaplinsky's students (out of eight that applied) were among the 35 pianists chosen in March to play in the Cliburn.

Kaplinsky and other Cliburn officials say the teacher abstained from voting on her students during the Cliburn auditions and went to great lengths to keep from influencing other jurors.

Although the practice invites widespread skepticism, it is not unusual for teachers to serve as jurors in competitions in which their students are being judged, according to an independent observer of piano competitions.

Nonetheless, the international piano community has been buzzing since the Cliburn field was announced and many of Kaplinsky's students were included. The resulting personal attacks have followed her from Tel Aviv in her native Israel to New York and, finally, to the competition in Fort Worth.

A threatening email Kaplinsky received last Friday came from the address youareadeadwoman@hotmail.com.

"How can you sleep at night?" asked the unsigned message, a copy of which was obtained by the `Star-Telegram.' "If I were you, I'd be concerned."

About six times during her stay in Fort Worth, Kaplinsky says, she has answered late-night telephone calls in her hotel room and heard only heavy breathing at the other end.

During the competition, Kaplinsky never mentioned the harassment to Yang, her star pupil.

"Wow," said Yang, 19, who learned of the threats on Monday. "That's terrible. ... She didn't show any kind of stress in front of me. I'm really kind of in awe that she can go through this by herself. I feel terrible.

"I could not have done this without her. ... I needed to see her every day and get that last hug from her before I went on stage. I owe this entire experience to her."

John Giordano, the chairman of Cliburn juries since 1973, said the harassment was particularly perplexing because of Kaplinsky's reputation for integrity. So many Kaplinsky students were selected for the Cliburn, Giordano said, because they were "extraordinary musicians," not because of the influence of their teacher.

"This is so unfair," Giordano said. "I've never known anybody with more integrity than Veda. Either you're good enough to get in or you're not. Somebody has a vendetta. God. What on earth is going on? This is a piano contest."

Kaplinsky says she is determined to identify whoever is behind the harassment.

"Frightened? No. But angered? Yes," said Kaplinsky, who believes that one or two individuals, probably pianists unhappy with the Cliburn results, are behind most of the attacks. "And I'm saddened at the fact that musicians who are supposed to promote art and are supposed to have sensitive souls can turn against each other in such a way. ... I know I didn't do anything wrong. ...

"My reputation is something I've worked a lifetime to attain. I will not have some sick person ruin it with a pack of lies."

Vicious accusations

In mid-April, while Kaplinsky served on the jury of the Rubinstein International Piano Competition, she found a letter stuck beneath the door of her hotel room in Tel Aviv.

The anonymous letter, addressed to Cliburn Foundation President Richard Rodzinski and jury members in other competitions around the world, denigrated the audition results and called Kaplinsky "the most distasteful, vengeful, incompetent person who is trying to pollute the world of music by raising mediocrity at its very best. ...

"This little angry person pushed the legendary Juilliard School to the lowest level in its history," the letter continued.

"I was stunned. This came out of nowhere," Kaplinsky said last week in Fort Worth. "This was about as vicious as writing can get and painted me as some kind of monster that I didn't even recognize. I was livid."

Kaplinksy said she immediately went to the hotel's front desk to ask who had delivered the letter. She was told that a woman requested that it be distributed to all of the Rubinstein jurors. A few days later, back in New York, Kaplinsky began receiving anonymous emails in a similar vein.

She was also subjected to an atmosphere at Juilliard that she described as "pretty vicious ... against my students."

"If there were 25 Juilliard students who applied, and only 10 got in, that leaves 15 out in the cold, and that's not a very good feeling," Kaplinsky said. "There was a lot of talk. I explained to anybody who would listen, over and over again, and that goes from the faculty to the students, exactly how the process was done. I didn't have to defend myself. I just had to explain to them."

Kaplinsky said she discussed the situation with a couple of her students who had been chosen for the Cliburn field, asking whether they knew the source of the harassment. The students said they didn't.

One student described her as "really stressed."

Two of Kaplinsky's students, Yang and Gabriela Martinez, advanced to the Cliburn semifinals. Yang made it to the final six.

As the competition intensified, so did the anonymous attacks. In addition to the late-night phone calls and anonymous email, unsigned postings began appearing on the official Cliburn Internet blog.

"ok people, when are we going to do something about VEDA KAPLINSKY???" one posting read. "seriously, we need a revolution or something because this woman has done so much evil in this world that it simply CANNOT continue as it is! she is a scary creature."

On May 27, a man standing near Kaplinsky outside Bass Hall was overheard muttering, as if to himself, "I'm not gonna kill Veda Kaplinsky. I'm not gonna kill Veda Kaplinsky."

At the urging of Rodzinski, Kaplinsky reported the comments to Fort Worth police. Last Friday, she contacted police again to report the overtly threatening email messages. A police spokesman said Monday that an investigation was continuing.

The Cliburn's Rodzinski called the harassment a "despicable situation," and said Kaplinsky will be invited to serve on future Cliburn juries.

A decision to make

In November, Kaplinsky had offered to resign from the Cliburn screening jury because of the number of Juilliard students -- more than 20 -- applying for the competition.

Rodzinski immediately persuaded her to remain, reminding Kaplinsky how common it was for teachers to serve as jurors in music competitions that involve their students. (In fact, Cliburn juror Claude Frank had two students reach the semifinals.)

Gustav Alink, whose foundation in the Netherlands tracks international piano competitions, said in Fort Worth last week the practice is indeed common because of the relatively small and insular world of classical music.

"It's almost unavoidable," Alink said. "There are so many connections, not only student-teacher relationships [but] also through master classes, and jurors know pianists from other competitions. If a teacher has students [in competitions], they just don't vote for those."

Alink said that even with many of her students auditioning, he thought that it was reasonable for Kaplinsky to remain on the screening jury because those eight were just a fraction of the roughly 250 pianists who applied.

Of those, 147 were invited to auditions in Russia, the Netherlands, Switzerland, New York and Fort Worth. What is remarkable and perhaps unprecedented, Alink said, was the number of Kaplinsky's students ultimately selected for the competition.

"I told the kids ahead of time that, statistically speaking, about two of them had a chance of getting in," said Kaplinsky, who served on the Cliburn jury in 2001. "They had to get ready for the fact that not all of them would get in."

The Juilliard students auditioned in February at Rockefeller University in New York. Kaplinsky said she abstained from voting on her students, although not on other Juilliard students she does not teach, and also insisted on not knowing how other jurors voted.

Yet despite the precautions, the teacher said, she grew uneasy when so many of her students began appearing on the audition stage, playing at such an obviously high level.

"I could see the outcome because they were playing well, and I was uncomfortable," Kaplinsky said. "I have to make very clear to you that I was uncomfortable with the perception. I was never uncomfortable with my role because I knew what I was doing."

Nevertheless, she said, when the Cliburn field was announced in March and all but one of her students was promoted, "I was shocked."

"I know how hard it is to get in," she said. "I knew they played well, but so did other [pianists]. I had very mixed feelings. I was very happy for my students. They had worked so hard.

"But I immediately saw trouble. I foresaw a perception that I had something to do with it because it is so unique. I expected the raised eyebrows. I expected I would have some explaining to do. I never expected the viciousness."

Kaplinsky said she will think hard before accepting another invitation to serve on a Cliburn jury, particularly if future students audition.

"If I had to do it all over again, in view of what has happened, I probably would have convinced Richard that because of the multitude of students, that I should have stayed away from the process in order to not taint it in any way," Kaplinsky said. "But whoever is doing this is totally obsessed with this issue and has totally lost any sense of proportion or logic.

"We'll try to find out who it is and make him suffer the consequences. You cannot try to ruin another person's reputation based on outright lies."
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Tim Madigan, (817) 390-7544 tmadigan@star-telegram.com