Insecurity

Insecurity, what a powerful thing. It changes one's character, judgments. It turns a nice person into a monstrous one. Why does one feel insecure? Many started developing their insecurities from their childhood. Children yearn for parents' approval, if they did not receive enough from their parents, the insecurity would start to form at an early age.

Most common form to express one's insecurity is to be aggressive. If one feels secure enough on what he or she represents as a person, then there will be no need to attack others to get anything or for any reason. People with insecurity also cannot take any criticism. People who are secure take criticism as a step toward bettering themselves, while insecure people take criticism as a threat from the others. Nothing from the others can possibly be constructive for insecure people. People who are insecure also tend to feel the need to validate themselves in front of the others. If they agree with the others, they have to voice the idea again themselves, so others Know that it is their idea also. If they disagree, they also have to voice themselves so they feel they are heard. Secure people don't have the need to voice themselves all the time.

Insecure people also tend to be indecisive. They might appear to be multi-talented, yet, they cannot decide on one rout to concentrate on, due to the fear of "what if". "What if this is not my favorite?" "What if I cannot do this as well as the others who are brilliant?" "What if I spend all my time with this, and loose touch with my other talents?" "What if I am not good enough at this to pursue it as a career?" What if what if what if.... The fear of taking consequences of their own choices... A life like that is tough and sad...

I definitely have my own set of issues with insecurity, but I now can recognize it in any forms of expression, and most of the time able to stop it in time before any further damage is done to my life. I will keep working at it until the day I die.